My relationship column ironically hits a little close to home this time around being as how I just got into a relationship yesterday, so I figured I would blog about brand new relationship.
He said, “I really like you and I think we should be together” and I said yes, thus beginning a new and exciting relationship.
While getting into a new relationship, whether it is a gay or straight one, can be exhilarating and blissful, there are a few crucial things that need to happen in order to keep a new couple, well… blissful.
There are hundreds of online articles about new relationships all of which giving advice something like “communication is key, always be honest, be yourself” and so on, but what a lot of those articles don’t say is what not to do.
One key thing not to do is have sex right away. While this may seem like a “yeah I already knew this” phenomenon, jumping right into something so intimate without knowing the other person makes the relationship die quicker before it even started.
Make sure you tell the other about your vices. Talking about bad habits is a good way to show the other that you want them there in the long run.
Don’t spill all your personal details about your ex. It might really easy to bash the him or her, but all this does is show your new boyfriend or girlfriend how bitter and resentful you which is definitely a negative way to start a relationship. If he or she asks questions about your ex, answer them but don’t pour all those old feelings out. This new relationship is about you and whomever you’re with, not you and him or her and your ex. Leaving it alone is your best bet.
Getting all of the ugly stuff out of the way is the hard part, it’s also important to enjoy each other, fully.
Go out and do things. Go to a coffee shop, see a band, go to the movies and take road trips. The couple that goes places together stays together. Immediately becoming the “stay at home, being bored” can get old really fast. Being active keeps things exciting and new and that is exactly what a new relationship should be.
Honesty and trust is a given, but really being honest and really trusting the other is key. If you see this new and exciting relationship going somewhere really give it your all, make it all it can be.
Another important aspect is not caring about what the people around you think. Being together is a big step in itself and sometimes outsiders can easily influence the relationship, but only if you let it. So make sure you’re in the relationship for the right reasons and not to make the people around you happy.
Lastly, have fun with it and try not to worry about every detail too much. The exciting part of the whole relationship is having someone unexpectedly wonderful come into your life and change everything forever. Trust me, I know.
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3 comments:
So the obvious question is: Did you send him the link to this column?
(not that you spill any big secrets about him or anything ... which is a little disappointing... haha, jk)
you accidentally a few words there, other then that thanks for the advice. I am just starting a relationship and I look forward to the blissful enjoyment of being with that girl.
Well, self-disclosure is always interesting...
But how about diving into a few of those hundreds of columns about relationships to pull out some gems of other people's advice?
I think there would be more than a few hundred, maybe a few thousand.
And that might be somewhat conservative.
In any column like this, it is important to bring something new to the reader, some news, not retreads...
And, good question Cody. Perhaps the next column will be about the new amigo.
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