Generally speaking, your parents are supposed to be there for you whenever you need them, you confide in them when you have problems and they come up with the perfect solution. Your parents are there to bail you out of trouble, if you were to ever get in any.
When you have a bad day at school and little Timmy hit you, you would go home and tell your parents and they would make sure something was done about it. Your parents are your everything. But as children grow up and get older there comes a time when some things, well a lot of things, are better left unsaid.
So where does one draw the line? What is safe to talk about with your parents without them judging you in the vilest way?
The first obvious one that probably should never be discussed with a parent is sex. If it’s not extremely awkward, and your parents aren’t sex therapist like Gaylord Focker’s mom was in “Meet the Fockers”, to talk about sex with them then there is something very wrong with you. Besides the “birds and the bees” talk, sex should never be discussed with parents at any time.
Can you imagine telling your parents, “Yeah mom and dad, I had this banging orgy last night, you should’ve been there”? I didn’t think so. As long as parents know you are using some kind of protection there should be no worries on their end and then it should immediately be dropped and never mentioned again.
But then there are more complicated and serious things that usually should not be discussed with a parent. For instance, when you get into a fight with a good friend over something serious. Think about it, telling your parents about a fight you had with one of your best friend and telling your mom or dad all about is only going to give them your side of the side and as we all know there are two sides to a story, so it is a little bit biased.
And then once you and your friend are done being mad at each other and go back to hanging out everyday your mom or dad might be like “well I thought you were mad at her? What she did was pretty messed up.” So to avoid confusion, it is a lot easier to keep your mouth closed on BFF (best friends forever) disputes.
Another issue that generally should not be discussed between a parent and a child is how much drugs the child does. Unless the parent can see drugs are clearly interfering with the child’s education and or work life.
“Recreational” drug use as some high school and college kids like to call it is usually just a phase. Some may go through this phase in high school, some may go through it in college, some may stretch that phase through both, but the point is as long as it truly is a phase it generally should not be talked about. Talking about it with a parent will only make your mom or dad worry more than they already do, and we don’t want to give our parents heart attacks do we? Of course not.
A parent’s life is hard enough, so the next time you think about telling your mom about that drunken rage you went to last Friday where you had unprotected sex with a complete stranger and did four lines of coke, just hold off on that one, seriously.
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2 comments:
The writer has an interesting column topic and approach.
The basic thesis seems to be, too much disclosure isn't good for parents.
The weakness in the column is that it is written from a very age-specific point of view (generally) and doesn't look at the broader picture.
The second paragraph uses the cliche of "little Timmy" and two graphs later launches into someone (not Timmy?) having an orgy.
It's a leap that needed some better transitions.
Still, the topic is a good one and in spots the columnist makes some good points.
The ending is classic:
"A parent’s life is hard enough, so the next time you think about telling your mom about that drunken rage you went to last Friday where you had unprotected sex with a complete stranger and did four lines of coke, just hold off on that one, seriously."
Seriously?
Seriously.
this is a well-done piece. i agree that some things should just not be said to parents.
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